The Secret of Family Happiness

There were two houses standing next to each other. In one of them resided a very unhappy family. The spouses yelled at each other, they fought and quarreled all the time. The other was a place of happiness and calm.

During one of the fights a wife asked her husband:

“Did you ever hear them quarrel or yell over at that house? No!

So, go there and see what they do to avoid it!”

The husband stood at the window of his neighbors and watched. There they were busy doing their own thing. The wife was in the kitchen cooking, and the man sat at the table writing. The phone rang, and the man jumped up and headed to the hallway to get it.

On his way he bumped into a vase, it fell and broke. He got down to his knees and started picking up the pieces. The wife ran into the room from the kitchen. She also kneeled down and started helping her husband to pick them up.

The man said to his wife:

“I am so sorry. I rushed to get the phone and bumped into the vase. It fell and got broken.”

The wife replied:

“No, honey, it is my fault. I put it there on the way. That’s why you bumped into it.”
They kissed, and that was over. Both got back to what they were doing.

The man who watched them returned to his wife. She wanted to know what the secret of their happiness was.

What he said was fantastic:

“I know it now. In their family they both are guilty and in our family both of us are always right!”

That’s the secret of family happiness!

Food for thought.

The “trick” isn’t in not wanting to take responsibility, but rather in not claiming right.

There are times you need to forfeit your right to win your peace: depends on which you cherish most.

This recipe is applicable, not only in the home, but also at work and in all relationships.

Pls don’t just read it. share it. You never can tell how many people this post will bless.

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I have been taught in Arabic school since I started going to Mosque as a little kid, that Allah is the arbiter of all things; that Allah is the creator of heaven and earth and he decides what happens to whom and when. This seems like a good way to explain the questions above but in reality, it doesn’t really answer them. I was listening to a philosopher’s opinion on this issue and he was saying that this kind of “Allah is all in all” statement shuts down your reasoning and effectively renders the part of your brain that asks questions useless! While the Muslim part of me wanted to cut off the man’s head for uttering such a ridiculously blasphemous statement, the other part of me that reasons and asks questions immediately started to reason it out.


What if it is indeed true that this whole thing is one big lie? In a country like Nigeria for instance; People go to Mosque just because their Imam tell them to come. People have no personal opinions on issues as they are content to believe whatever their Imam tell them. People cannot reason out decisions made by the Imam as they now see their Imam as greater than Allah himself. How does one explain the case of a very big “Man of God” who slapped a young girl in the full glare of everyone just because the girl claimed to be a “witch for Muhammad”? How do you explain it when a Mosque asks its low income earning members to contribute money to build a university and at the end of the day, even the guy that contributed to the building of that university cannot afford to send his child to the school because he can’t afford the tuition and other fees? Yet he still contributes more towards the development of the school when asked.


How do you explain an Imam in a typical mosque that goes into the vestry to drink alcohol when he is supposed to be observing lent? How do you rationalize the fact that an Imam goes about with bodyguards and armed policemen all in the name of security? Who wants to kill him? Why? How do you explain a situation where a pastor lives like a drug lord at the expense of his congregation? How can a pastor spend his mosque’s money lavishly and with reckless abandon when there are people in his own congregation who cannot afford two meals a day? How does a Imam think to build or buy mansions and choice estate all over the world when there are members of his own Mosque whose permanent abode is under the third mainland bridge? What does Allah have to say to all these? Surely He can’t be pleased? Something has to be wrong somewhere.


I however believe that religion is a personal matter. Nobody should tell you what to think. If you feel like believing that there is God, you should. If you don’t feel like it, don’t. At the end of the day though, every man will be responsible for whatever his decisions and/or indecisions are; first in this life, then in the life hereafter (if there is one). I will end with a quote I heard from friend of mine; “I WOULD RATHER LIVE MY LIFE AS IF THERE IS A GOD AND DIE TO FIND OUT THERE ISN’T, THAN LIVE MY LIFE AS IF THERE ISN’T AND DIE TO FIND OUT THERE IS”.


Don’t go back on your faith

In any critical situation you find yourself, don’t go back on your faith. Hold on to God because He carries us in the most turbulent times of our lives. When our soul is troubled, when we have no money, what to wear, drink or eat, we should always realise that God is always there. We have a living God.

God is ever so faithful and gracious, we should give our hearts to Him. If God is in your boat, He’s going to turn your situations around. All you need do is just to give Him a chance to sit in your boat. God’s methods might be confusing but His motives are always right. If it is God, impossibility is not tied to it. Rise up and say to yourself “I’m turning around.

If you were rejected in the past, you’ll be respected in the future. RememberGod is your voice in silence and your light in darkness.

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Ignorant folks: our major problems in Nigeria

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Few years back I and a friend of mine Nigerian was discussing with a Ghanaian friend along the line one thing led to the other we started talking about visa application the rigmarole one goes through before getting a UK visa and he said “chale no be Britain colonize una” Continue reading “Ignorant folks: our major problems in Nigeria”


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