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Who is really at Fault?

Have you ever fallen a victim to wrong or mis-interpreted communication?

Hmm, trust me , it isn’t a good one, but who is at fault, how often have we tried to pass across an innocent message but have been mis-represented maybe as a result of our way of presentation or the listener’s perception, where he/she assumes that this is what is said and thereby passes on the wrong message and of course we can imagine the consequence(s) of such.

Some of us are so much in a hurry to pass across a message(especially in a phone conversation) that we just say it all in a rush without bothering to see if the person did get it right, I remember a practical exercise one of my lecturers Mr. Ogunbiyi  did in class way back, he called out ten members of the class, whispered something to someone’s ear and ask the person to pass it on to the next, the next to the next until it gets to the last person who will then say it out to the entire class, but what he said turned out to be different from what the lecturer started with, who is at fault, the first person or the last person, as they all had different answers to give.

what am trying to say with this write up is that we should be careful when passing a message, don’t assume that the person you are speaking to would automatically understand, no, that is a chance you should not take, go extra mile to make them understand especially if the message is IMPORTANT, we should make sure that our words are clear to others by using words that could be easily understood. okay, maybe if I share this phone conversation from sister Zabrina’s book: Life is an Open Secret, you would flow with my vibes(by the way, i think you would really love the book).

This is a phone conversation:

Caller: Hello, can I speak to Annie Wan?

Operator: Yes, you can speak to me

Caller: No, I want to speak to Annie Wan

Operator: Yes, I understand you want to speak to anyone, you can speak to me, who is


Caller: I am Sam Wan and I need to talk to Annie Wan! It’s urgent

Operator: I know you are someone and you want to talk to anyone! but what is this

urgent matter about?

Caller: Well…just tell my sister Annie Wan that our brother Noe Wan was involved in an accident. Noe Wan is being sent to the hospital right now, Avery Wan is on his way to the hospital

Operator: Look, if no one was injured and no one was sent to the hospital, then the accident isn’t an urgent matter! You may find this hilarious but I don’t have time for this!

Caller: You are so rude, who are you?

Operator: I am Saw Ree

Caller: Yes! You should be sorry, now give me your name!

Operator: That’s what I said. I am Saw Ree

Caller: oh God!

Pretty hilarious don’t you think? so I ask here who is at fault, I leave you to answer that while I ask how many times we have been Sam Wan or Saw Ree in our conversation with others and of course we see the consequence, nothing was communicated, so let’s try to make our conversations clear, even if it means having to repeat it all over, did I hear you say repeat?

You don’t wanna be sorry or someone , do you? 🙂

Posted in POLITICS, Uncategorized

NIGERIA must get BETTER – a wake up call

Disheartening, though it may be to see a man of 51  with no achievement,but as long as that man is alive, people still believe he has hope..Yes, hope
NIGERIA  is so blessed even though we may not want to accept it, but i tell you there is no nation without its challenges.there  is no nation without its trying period, it is how each nation handles it that is different.
we are all  quick to point an accusing finger on others, even when we are guilty of the same thing, like Asa said in her song, let he who is without sin be the first to cast the stone, did i see you making an attempt to do that, then you must be a big liar, lying to yourself.
It is always easier for us as humans to stand on the other side of the fence and pass different comments on the activities on the other side of the fence, but do we bother to ask ourselves, if we would have done better or even well, if we are the one on the other side?
I feel bad when i hear or see Nigerian youths saying they have lost hope in Nigeria, when we are the future of Nigeria, if we loose hope now, that is when i begin to wonder, what would become of Nigeria?
Nigerian youth i call on you, lets keep our hope high on Nigeria, agreed that our leaders have been failing us, but i still believe things would get better.
I always enjoy listening to my Dad telling me stories of Nigeria of those days, how things were going well, the unity enjoined, good living condition etc, and each time i listen, i ask myself, are the Nigerians of those days different from the ones we have now? is there something the leaders do back then that our present leaders are not willing to learn from?how sincere are we when we condemn or lambast a leader? in what ways have we or are we trying to solve Nigeria’s problem as individuals apart from running discouraging comments, the list of my questions are endless, but I believe if we ask ourselves these questions, we will get answers.
Nigeria is a great Nation, we once had it good in Nigeria, we once lived in peace and harmony, so why can’t we still do the same.
My hope shaketh not in Nigeria, I believe things will get better.
Nigeria youth I call on thee, lets keep up the hope, even if it is the only thing we can do for Nigeria now, things will surely get better, we are the revolution , we are the change we seek.NIGERIA MUST GET BETTER..
Lets continue to hope, pray and play our part.

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In my own world

For a while now, I have been trying so hard to put my thoughts (so many of them) in writing but each time I am almost there, somehow  the whole thing seems to jump out of the window. Then I just have to pick a pen and paper this morning (against the saying that the pen has been lifted and the pages are empty) with no thought of what to write on, but I know I did write something, whether it would make sense to you or even me is another question, but for now I am just going to continue.

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Posted in LIFESTYLE, Uncategorized

Build real relationship

I really wonder why many people nowadays rush relationships. Is it because they fear loneliness, is it because they can’t fit into their friends, is it the pressure from their friends or families, is it because they want to show the world that they have someone, or it’s because they can’t support their own lives since relationships became a business that supports them financially? And mind you these are the very type of people who are always heartbroken, who are always getting used and dumped like tissues, and who are ever bellyaching that men and women are the same, they are dogs, sluts, whore…! You need to grow up and take relationships slow. You need to take your time and build a healthy friendship with someone fast that will turn into a relationship and lead to marriage. You need to build something real and mature not casual things. Think about it and conserve yourself.






I love being straightforward

I love being horribly straightforward. I love sending text messages and telling people I love them and telling people they are absolutely magical humans and I cannot believe they really exist.
I love saying, “I love you,” and “You’re a good person,” and, “You brighten my day.” I live my life as straight-forward as possible. Because one day, I might get hit by a bus. Maybe it’s weird. Maybe it’s scary. Maybe it seems downright impossible to just be—to just let people know you want them, need them, feel like, in this very moment, you will die if you do not see them, hold them, touch them in some way whether it’s your feet on their thighs on the couch or your heart in their hands. But there is nothing more beautiful than being real. We are alive and we are human and we are beautiful and we are not as in control as we think we are. We never know who needs us back. We never know the magic that can arise between ourselves and other humans. You never know when your bus is coming, My dear.