If you need help with a problem in your personal life, your family, or your career, keep the following things in mind:
1) Bad news is often remembered longer than good news. Long after you have resolved the issue and moved on with your life, the wrong people will continue to focus on it and talk about it. That’s why God’s Word says, ‘Those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence.’
2) Be careful who advises you. ‘The thoughts of the righteous are right, but the counsels of the wicked are deceitful’ (Proverbs 12:5 NKJV). Be sure you reach for the right person. There are many sources of wisdom in this world, ‘but the wisdom that is from above is…pure…peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and…hypocrisy’ (James 3:17 NKJV). Note the words, ‘the wisdom that is from above’. Confide only in a counsellor who walks according to the principles of God’s Word.
3) Make sure the person you trust isn’t confiding in others you wouldn’t trust. They say you can tell a man by the company he keeps. And it’s true! The Bible says, ‘Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly’ (Psalm 1:1 NKJV).
4) ‘Problem talk’ can portray you as a victim instead of an overcomer. Nobody wants to back a loser. When Job lost everything, almost everybody avoided him. It was only after God doubled Job’s blessings that they returned to participate in his life and bring him gifts. It’s always wise to control your mouth, your thoughts, and your focus. Remember, silence can never be misquoted. Job 28-29, 1 Cor 6